As parents we always want to see our kids succeed in life, but what we forget while accomplishing our mission to make them successful, is teaching them about failure.
But how do we do that?
The experts at We Positive Parenting, parent child counselling services in Ahmedabad, believe that parents should make their kids understand that in order to grow, everyone needs to face failure in their life. And we as parents have many ways to help their kids move beyond failure.
Let them fall, but be there to pick them up
When your child fails at any big or small task in his\her life, the first thing to do for you as a parent is to acknowledge their efforts. Praise them for the efforts they made to do a task and motivate them to overcome the setback or the failure. Their failure is an opportunity for you as a parent to teach them how to focus on growth by acceptance and problem-solving skills. Tell them what to do next, and how to do it, for a better chance at success.
Back up your child with positive affirmations. Simple statements like “I know it’s tough, but you can do it” or “It’s okay, there’s always a next time” can boost your child’s morale. Because your positive words and encouragement from you can have a great impact on your child.
Another great way to pump up your child’s confidence is by making a list of pros-cons and turning these failures into teachable moments. Looking at the list of pros, the child gets confidence in tackling the other side of the list, the cons.
Sit & explain the learning pit
Back in the year 2007, Author James Nottingham, discovered a new concept of the learning journey, known as the Learning Pit. It is a simple framework that shows the importance of hurdles in life. Moreover, it also says that the highs in life are especially rewarding when you have had the lows that have made you stumble.
The learning pit makes one encounter their self-doubts, develops deep thinking to come up with ideas and solutions to overcome the challenges and further build the confidence to work towards the final goal.
Teach your kid about the learning pit by making it a part of their vocabulary. Then the most important thing is to teach them how to get out of the ‘pit’ by staying committed to achieving their goals.
